How to protect your emotions in relationship

SETTING BOUNDARIES TO PROTECT YOUR EMOTIONS.

Ironically, love come at times when we don't expect. Loving a person who loves you as much as you do is the greatest feeling. Somehow most people are still living with the past, having the fantasies of their ex's due to the amount of love they once shared.

Have you tried asking yourself why you fall in love today and the next minute the relationship becomes boring and all the high hopes and expectations seems to have died over night.? "Expecting too much from people is always the problem we face" we are humans with flaws and past lives.

Loving someone after being betrayed is always difficult and; in most cases the victims are those who want to truly appreciate and love you without broken promises.

HOW DO I MAKE IT WORK?

Set Goals.

Be supportive.

Be Understanding.

Be Caring.

Have a Dream.

Avoid Unnecessary Jealousy.

Don't just be at the receiving end.

Know Your Limits.

Make Plans for the Future.

Welcome New Ideas.

Respect Each Other.

Learn to always forgive.

Be a hardworking person.

Don't just talk, but always Listen.

Tolerance and Endurance is highly recommended.

Avoid Flirting.

Learn to apologize when you're wrong...

HOW DO I KNOW THE WRONG PERSON?

Do you think you can know people with bad intentions by their appearance? So many of them come in disguise, they appear sweet and very loving at first sight. You don't judge people by their appearance, it has misled many.

Now set boundaries to what you want and what you need. If you believe in no premarital sex before marriage, it should be your principle and anyone who wants to be with you must respect that; else they have other negative intentions. The journey of life is the survival of the fittest. You must work hard to get what you want.

After going through a lot of painful heartbreaks, you become careful of those you date and start hunting for "The right one", but the truth is there's no perfect relationship or perhaps a perfect being on earth so you're likely to come across different kinds of people; even worst than your ex. But understanding is all that matters. the wrong persons are likely to show those signs at the very beginning of the relationship. Signs like cheating, flirting, lying and lusting.

HOW DO I HOLD TIGHT WITHOUT LETTING GO.?

Finding someone with the same mindset as yours is very rare, that's why it is advisable to date your friend. Every relationships has it difficult times, you don't give up on the person you feel/ claim you love. There are times when they become very annoying and make you feel like you're loosing your mind, during those moments you simply have to exercise patience and try to be understanding.

Tip.! Girls tend to be quite annoying and will likely display some unusual attitude during their menstrual circles . Those monthly cramps can make her want to put all the pains she's going through on you as the boyfriend. Understanding the situation and being as loving as you could is highly suggested. From experience i will suggest you do the following to at least ease the pains she's going through.

Allow her stay with you if she wants to stay over.

Getting her sanitary pads before the due date will be a great deal.

Massaging her stomach when she's in severe pains will be highly recommended.

Give her a warm bath if possible.

Stay with her and try to be engaging, talk about the things she loves and places you want to go with her. she will likely feel bored and start giving you unnecessary attitude if you just abandoned her all alone.

Help her do her laundry if possible, It will mean a lot to her and help reduce stress.

Watch a movie together.

SUPPORTING YOUR BOYFRIEND

Ladies should eradicate the mindset of always being at the receiving end. Love all about sharing, if you are just at the other end receiving and not giving out, trust me he will become fed up with you and start looking for an opportunity to end the relationship.

Your boyfriend also needs financial support, there must always be difficult times, when he is broke and can't afford a dollar note 💵. At this point what you should do is give him if you have because there were times when he was willing to give up everything for you.

Many ladies feel it's the guy's responsibility to always spend on their girlfriend. No! Giving to you boyfriend is also a sign of appreciation for all he has been doing. Take he out for lunch, buy new clothes, shoes and perfumes for him. Trust me he will adore you with his life.

SUPPORT YOUR PARTNER WITH PRAYERS

Many ladies are simply interested in what they tend to gain, forgetting the fact that life comes first before anything. As a lady, praying for your boyfriend or partner is one of the best spiritual gifts you could offer. Commit your partner's hustle into the Lord's hands, trust me you will see things changing for the better.

If your partner brings a business idea to you, don't wave it off. Think through it and tell him what you think and advise him on what to do, 20-years from that day he will always be grateful to you.

HELP YOUR PARTNER FIND A JOB

You can help your boyfriend find a job if he is yet to get any, submitting his CVs and application letters shouldn't be a difficult task. There's 75% possibility he will be accepted and called for interview if you as the girlfriend try to help him get a job.

You should be selfless in whatever you do for your partner. Whatever you do, let it be because of the Love you share and because you want to see them become a better person.

WHAT YOU SHOULD AVOID (GUYS / LADIES)?

Most guys have the habits of promising different ladies marriage and at the end of the tunnel they abandon this ladies for another girl. Seriously it's so painful, after building your circle around one person and end up being betrayed. People should avoid such habits, it has sent many to their early grave because of the emotional trauma. Make your intentions known and stop making false promises to anyone.

Guys (ladies inclusive) should stop the habits of lying. Most times you think you're smart because your partner bought the lies you told them, what if they have found out the truth and want you to come plain without lies and you end up still lying.? You could be putting your relationship in great risk by telling lies.